Are you looking for new ways to fall asleep? If you’ve cleaned up your sleep hygiene and have tried everything, including melatonin, then maybe you need to look at the latest research on having sex before bed. Current studies suggest that having sex before you go to bed, especially if both you and your partner orgasm, can help you fall asleep and stay asleep.

Australian researchers talked to 460 adults between the ages of 18 and 70, with 64% of respondents claimed that sex helped them sleep better, as long as they had an orgasm in the process.

This is true for women as well as for men. Another study showed that 1 out of every 6 women reports sleeping better after sex. And you don’t even have to have a partner to reap these benefits. 50% of those surveyed in the Australian study mentioned above used masturbation to help them sleep at night.

If you’re looking for a new way to fall asleep, or if the methods you’ve been using aren’t helping anymore, sex may be the answer to your sleep problems.

How Does Sex Help You Sleep?

Researchers think that there are several reasons why sex might help you fall asleep and stay asleep. First of all, it distracts you. When you’re having sex, you aren’t thinking about what went wrong today, or what could possibly go wrong tomorrow. You’re not thinking about much of anything outside of your partner and the present moment. This can have the same effects as meditation, where you intentionally train your brain to focus on the now.

Sex could also help you sleep better because it takes you away from your phone and other screens right before bed. The blue light emitted by these screens can keep your brain from producing melatonin, which is the hormone that tells your body it’s time for bed. The body produces less of this when exposed to daylight, and it processes blue light as daylight. It’s always a good idea to turn your phone and other devices off before bed, and sex can be quite a pleasurable way to do that.

Orgasm also causes the body to produce a lot of oxytocin, which is a hormone that helps you relax. It’s called the love hormone, and it produces that happy, sleepy feeling you get after an orgasm. It has been shown to help you sleep better and influence your dreams, too, all because of how relaxed it makes you feel. It’s closely connected to arousal, which occurs in the same part of your brain that processes and handles your sleep/wake cycle. Thus, a flood of oxytocin before bed could help you sleep a lot better.

Who Sleeps Better After Sex?

Unfortunately, not everyone benefits from sex when it comes to getting better sleep. While it is the perfect precursor to sleep for some people, it wakes others up. They don’t find sex relaxing, they find it extremely stimulating. For many of these people, the touch and the orgasm border on overstimulating. Even the rush of oxytocin at the end doesn’t overcome these stimulating effects.

Researchers say that, for women, approximately 40% of them fall into this overstimulated crowd. They may love sex, but their nervous systems are too sensitive for them to be able to fall asleep right afterward. In fact, they may need to have sex several hours before bedtime in order to rest well when they want to fall asleep. Men can fall into this category, too, though no research has been done on what percentage of the general population experiences this overstimulation.

Is Sex the Sleep Aid For You?



The only way to know whether you’ll fall asleep easier after sex is to try it out. Plan, with your partner, to make love starting an hour or so before bedtime. Take your time, be sure you both orgasm, then see if you fall asleep easily afterward. You may have to try this a few times before you know for sure whether or not it will work for you.

You can get a good feel for how you will respond when you think back to past sexual experiences. Do you often feel like you could fall straight asleep after sex? Or, after a brief period of post-coital bliss, do you feel energized and as though you could take on the world? If you fall into the first category, you’re more likely to sleep well after sex. If you’re in the second, you may not fall asleep easily.

Sex can be a good way for you to fall asleep if your partner is willing, so you may have found your solution to sleepless nights. This doesn’t mean you should abandon your sleep hygiene routine. Instead, add sex to it to get the sleep you need.

by: Sarah Winfrey